The meaning of the family

Why is a family needed?

Recently, single women write to me. Wishing Love. Wanting a Man. But they do not understand why they need a family. I would like to clarify this issue a little. A woman needs a family, a woman is looking for her, a woman is oriented towards her. Why?

The purpose of a woman is to give her love

How does this translate into practice? Find your man, feel him, and develop a relationship with ONE person in depth. Going through fire and water with him. The woman does it better men with the innate ability to love. There are no recipes for how to do all this, but any woman who has set herself the goal of working on relationships with a man (that is, on herself in this direction) will find her own solution. Individual work- the destiny of a woman.

Keywords for woman- family, love, happiness, children. The result of a woman's work is intangible. This is the reciprocal love of a man, the happiness of children and her happiness.

The purpose of a man is to develop relationships in breadth

Build your business by getting involved a large number of of people. He does it best, he knows how to do it. Work with the masses is the destiny of a man. And yet - a man was created to fulfill the PURE and LIGHT DESIRES of a WOMAN! A man will not work on relationships with a woman, then he will not be able to do the main thing - DO YOUR BUSINESS.

Key words for men business, freedom, money. The result of a man's actions is material. He makes money. He creates the world around.

Why do they need to unite?

In short, a man cannot be a CREATOR without LOVE. The Creator is the creator of what is good, environmentally friendly, beneficial to people and not harmful to nature. A man can receive LOVE only from a woman. First from the mother, then from the wife. But a woman without a man cannot give her love. Love always has a direction. You can't just love, you have to love someone or something. Through a man, a woman learns to love the whole world.

What is created in a world without love, you can see in practice - weapons, factories that pollute the air, various systems of human power over a person (state, schools, industries), etc. A world in which there is little love, we see before us now. It has a lot of sickness and misfortune. The world in which love lives, we can create with you. Women. In their little universes - families. And then our male Creators will make this world beautiful. For you and me. For our kids. To always receive our Love!

Why does a woman need a family?

First. FOR DEVELOPMENT. TO ALWAYS SEE THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF. A husband is a FREE person EQUAL to a woman. He cannot be forced to live with a woman, tied with a stamp in his passport or children. There is only one way to make contact with such a person, he is well known to successful businessmen. You must always remain interesting to a man, you must always give him what he needs. Those. LOVE.

This is the most important task - to improve relations with your only man. This is the main RESPONSIBILITY that lies on a woman. The attitude of a husband towards his wife is an indicator of her effectiveness, a consequence of her work. And if the husband stopped caring about you, does not respond to your requests or cries, and in general, tries to be with you less - this only says one thing: you are underworking. In my business. Don't give love. What happens if a woman does not fulfill her task? This is clearly seen in our society. Women have infidelity, divorce, loneliness, unhappiness, hatred or fear of men. In men - alcoholism, betrayal, loneliness, hatred or fear of women.

What picture will appear before us if a woman goes about her immediate business? Everyone can see this in their own experience. The only way. And I'll tell you about mine.

“My family is four years old (this is my second attempt). Two of them I lived as best I could. I tried to endure everything, to crush the resentment in myself, to please, to cook delicious things. And accumulated internal discontent. The fact that he does not take decisive steps, does not offer his hand and heart, does not care about our future, and many other things do not ...

A revelation for me was the realization: if I want all this, then I need to do it! If I want a sincere relationship in the family - I should start! It took me two years to learn how to negotiate with my beloved. I made millions of mistakes, stepped not only on a rake, but on all possible garden tools. I sobbed into the pillow, offended, accused. Then I realized that it was my fault and moved on.

What gave me the strength to go this way? I knew one thing - with this and only with this man I want to live my whole life. With no other. So, we need to make our life comfortable. For both of us. And for our children!

What is the reward? My Beloved gives me the opportunity to live the way I want!!! I live in a beautiful place, in a village near the forest, I don’t work, I do what I love: I sing, I dance, I help women find their way to happiness. And I am preparing a space of love for our future children. My beloved began to fulfill my desires. Feel them. I don't even say them out loud, he just does it. And gets my admiring stunned look!

And do you know what is most valuable? His loving eyes and the words “Thank you for having me. Such a "

Perhaps you would like to know what exactly I did? But my experience cannot be summed up in a few words. It needs to be passed. Guided by the principle “If my husband does not behave with me the way I want, then it is I who do not behave with him. And he himself is the best! And look in each situation for the answer “What am I doing wrong? And how should it be done? At any conflict situation There is a solution that benefits both you and your husband. And not only to you. This is the solution and you need to learn to look for it.

You are solely responsible for what happens to you. If you understand this, you will find a way out. If not, I don't know how to help you.

Second. TO EDUCATE A HUMAN! This is again the mission of a woman. But, a real Man can only be brought up in an atmosphere of love. When mom and dad are around. And when love lives with them. What happens when this is not there, you can see in your example. And I have mine.

“In my family, my mother always blamed my father for not being the right one - he drinks, does not keep order, earns little (no matter how much he earns, it was always small), does not pay attention to the child, etc. Although by the standards of that time it was above average. There were always other women looking at him. I grew up in an atmosphere of constant discontent. Mom drank, dad drank and left the house. And I was very worried about them. At first, she also blamed her father for everything. Then I realized that he was not to blame - it’s really impossible to live like that.

What result? I grew up to be a complex girl. I didn't know how to build relationships with men. I knew one thing - not like my mother. With my first husband, I acted like that - I didn’t saw. I was just silently offended, leaving him to guess what I was puffed up with. I tried to be pleasant, cheerful, to please him. It was just that I felt bad. Yes, and him too. We divorced. And I began to learn how to communicate with men. Anew. At thirty.

What if mom lived like this? I could be happy child. And my family was happy! From the very first steps."

A child cannot be brought up with words. He imbibes the lifestyle of his parents. And if there is no love in the family, your child will not learn it from your words. You cannot explain in words what you do not know in practice. And in life it will be more difficult for him than for those who grew up in an atmosphere of love and mutual understanding.

If you need help, if you do not understand something, I invite you to my mailing list. There I work with women. Those who are ready to work on themselves, learn to give love, and not demand it from others.

The relationship between two people is the work and desire of these people to be together. But sometimes, it seems that the partner has cooled off and would be happy to interrupt communication. Most often, the weak half experiences such a feeling, since the girls are more emotional and suspicious. Then the question begins to torment them: how to understand that a man does not need you? After all, few people want to be a burden.

Take your time, maybe he needs you

If doubts have crept into your head, do not succumb to them and momentary emotions, do not smack the fever. It often happens that you think it is. Perhaps somewhere in your subconscious you are afraid of being unnecessary and are looking for something that is not really there, thereby provoking problems:

1. Unfounded suspicions tense the situation.
2. The irritability that has appeared on your part repels your partner.
3. Uncertainty spoils the mood, and you spoil it for those who are nearby.

So just take your time. Yes, you notice that tension has appeared between you: you see each other less often or he is not as affectionate, attentive as he was before. But no one is stopping you from talking. Tell me what's bothering you. You will see, most likely, your doubts are in vain.

casual conversation - The best way solve any problems and anticipate them.

How to understand that you are tired of a guy?

It happens that it’s not possible to ask like this in person, observe: something in his behavior will dispel your guesses or, on the contrary, confirm:

• Insincerity. Compliments pour in, as before, and even more often, but it all looks like a performance.
• He comes and calls, but only when necessary.
• He reacts rudely if you denied him intimacy today because you feel unwell.
• Can't give clear answers to your questions. A caring partner will feel your concern and take steps to ease the anxiety - explain everything. If he doesn't care, of course, it's easier to brush it off with a simple phrase.

The main thing is to control yourself and do not make scenes, interrogations with passion. There are always crises in relationships. The couple either survives them or breaks up. Give it time to put everything in its place.

In this video, psychologist Maria Rozova will talk about ten signs that a guy needs you, give some advice:

How to understand what bothered her husband?

Husband and wife, who are constantly nearby, sometimes get a little tired of each other. This does not mean: "It's all over, I'm no longer interested in him." This is a signal that you need to take a break and change the situation a little.

Yes, some couples live together soul to soul all their lives. But not everyone can do that. Therefore, know how to feel this moment in time and in order not to take it to the extreme, behave correctly.

Here are some signs:

1. The husband became irritable. Literally everything angers him, and with other people he is friendly, sociable.
2. Stopped taking care of the kids. Their smile no longer touches him, and he always gives a negative answer to offers to go for a walk, play football.
3. He doesn't introduce himself to his friends. Prefers to visit the company alone.
4. He stopped taking care of himself: he shaves only before work, does not try to look neat next to you.
5. Can cancel your plans at the last minute, or leave you in the middle of the street and run away at the call of a neighbor to help move the sofa.

Such behavior will not leave you indifferent and will arouse suspicion. Perhaps this is the moment that comes in life together any couple. Now it all depends on you, because it is unusual for husbands to be imbued with such things. They have so many problems: work, car, dacha.

We are changing the state of affairs

Take the initiative in your own hands and do not despair. Start quietly rebuilding your life:

• If in recent times you often asked him where he went and when he would come. Stop doing it: "Bye, have a good day!" Over time, he himself will be surprised why you call less often, are not interested in him. When this fact alarms him, explain everything as it is;
• What if you, on the contrary, are too unkind to him, and he decided that you were not interested. And it's not uncommon for people not to hear each other. He thinks that you have lost interest in him, and you are the opposite. Because of such simple things, many couples have already broken up. Take note of this;
• Make him jealous a little. But here you have to be very careful, many guys leave in such a situation. It's not that you don't care about him. And the fact is that if it’s better for you, then he wants only happiness.

It is easy to advise, but it is more difficult to translate into reality. But now everything is in your hands: from how wise the actions will be, the future of the family depends.

How to understand that a man needs you?

And in addition to everything, I would like to say that it is better to pay attention not to how he runs away from you, but to how he shows how dear you are to him. We need to look at the situation from all angles.

1. He maintains a great relationship with your parents. This is very important, since usually young people are small hunters for family gatherings with their mothers, and even more so with potential or accomplished mothers-in-law;
2. He respects your opinion. He listens and listens to him. Yes, perhaps somewhere inattentive, but he tries. It is always visible;
3. A man who respects and appreciates his woman will never allow himself to humiliate or insult her. Whatever it was.

Don't try to see the flaws. This won't make it any easier. Try to see a hint that all is well.

The stronger sex differs from girls in its psychology. Very often they do not give their words and actions the meaning that women understand.

Here are some tips to help you figure out what's going on:

• Do not demand an immediate explanation for what you have said or done. This will cause a storm of emotions.
• If in doubt, don't blame him for it. Your statements will be annoying.
• Be less offended and, moreover, do not say: “No, no, everything is fine!” Something is bothering you, tell me personally. Such inconsistencies accumulate and then result in trouble. The guys are straightforward and expect this from you.
• It is also unusual for them to rejoice so violently at some events or your new dresses. They are a more silent and reserved people by nature. They don't have that set of emotions that girls have.

In general, try to look for dirty tricks less. Talk about your worries. With guys, everything is strict, as in mathematics, if you don’t invent and wind it up yourself.

So, to summarize: you should not torment yourself with thoughts, how to understand that a man does not need you? Better not to think about it again. Trust him, he will come and tell you directly when such a problem arises, and will not beat around the bush.

Video: if your loved one does not need you ...

In this video, a professional psychologist, an expert in family relationships Sergey Klyuchnikov will tell you by what signs you can accurately determine whether a man needs you:

Within the boundaries of the national state, the subjects of politics are individuals, social groups (classes, layers), parties, movements pursuing individual and group interests. However, the independent states themselves do not develop in a vacuum, they interact with each other and act as subjects of a higher-level policy - international.

The goals of international politics are determined by the specific context of the specific historical situation in which global community, and the nature of relations existing between states. To the extent that external factors influence the living conditions of a particular state, they also determine the content of international politics.

National interest is a conscious need of the nation for self-preservation, development and security, a set of balanced interests of the individual, society and the entire state in the economic, domestic political, social, international, informational, military, border, environmental and other spheres of society. National interest can also be defined as awareness and reflection in the activities of the leaders of the state of its needs. This applies to both multinational and ethnically homogeneous states. In fact, the national interest means the national-state interest.

The traditionally understood fundamental national-state interest includes three main elements:

• - military security;
• - economic prosperity and development;
• - state sovereignty as the basis of control over a certain territory and population or the preservation of a nation as a free and independent state.

Sometimes the following elements are added:

• - growth of national welfare;
• - protection of economic and political positions states in the international arena;
• - expanding its influence in world politics.

However, today both these elements and the content of the national interest as a whole are undergoing significant changes under the pressure of new facts and circumstances.

Now states and regions are becoming more and more permeable to the growing flows of ideas, capital, goods, technologies and people crossing their borders. Traditional bilateral and multilateral ties between states are supplemented by new ones operating in various fields, such as transport, economics and finance, information and culture, science and education, etc.

Under these conditions, the national interest cannot be ensured without the creation of such conditions for the existence of the state as internal stability, economic well-being, the moral tone of society, security (in the broad sense of the word), a favorable foreign policy environment, prestige and authority on the world stage. It should be borne in mind that ensuring the national interest is achieved only when the specified conditions are balanced, which are an open system of interdependent and complementary elements. Full provision of each of them is possible only ideally. In real practice, cases of insufficient development of one or another of the indicated elements or conditions are typical, which is compensated by the more intensive development of others. Ensuring such a balance is the essence and art of international politics.

A distinction is made between fixed (fixed) and variable content of the national interest. The invariable part includes the task of ensuring the external security of the state. Variable content is viewed through the prism national traditions, personal qualities political leaders, trends in the economic, social spheres public life etc. The real material and political needs in the development of the state can change, and with them, the interests, goals, means and foreign policy activity. The change in the needs and interests of the state leads to a change in ideological values.

In relation to the environment outside world national interests are expressed in the totality of the state's foreign policy interests, which differ in their importance for its life. There are two levels of the state's national interests: the level of main foreign policy interests and the level of specific interests. The first is connected with ensuring its security and integrity as a socio-economic, political, national-historical and cultural community, with the protection of the economic and political independence of the state. The state provides the main interests with all military, economic, diplomatic and ideological means.

The second level covers individual, relatively private, although important in themselves interests of the state in the sphere of international relations.

national interests basically objective, because they reflect the aspirations of the citizens of the state to ensure a stable and sustainable development society, its institutions, raising the standard of living of the population; minimizing threats to the personal and public security of citizens, the system of values ​​and institutions on which the existence of society is based.

These aspirations of citizens are embodied in the concept (doctrine) of the national interest, the specific content of which is also determined mainly by objective parameters, such as:

• - the geopolitical position of the state on the world stage, the presence of allies or opponents that pose a direct threat to the national-state interests of the country;
• - position in the system of international economic relations, the degree of dependence on foreign markets, sources of raw materials, energy, etc.;
• - the general state of the system of international relations, the predominance of elements of rivalry or partnership, force or law in it.

The concept of "national interest" was developed by G. Morgenthau. He defined the concept of "interest" in terms of power. The concept of the national interest consists of three elements: 1) the nature of the interest to be protected; 2) the political environment in which the interest operates; 3) national necessity, which limits the choice of goals and means for all subjects of international politics.

G. Morgenthau included the following in the concept of "national interest":

• 1. National interest is an objective reality. It is based, first, on the uniqueness geopolitical position the state and related features of geo-economic and socio-cultural development; secondly, it is mediated by the peculiarities of human nature.
• 2. statesmen must proceed from the premise that good policy is a rational policy based on a properly understood national interest. The basis of such a policy is a clearly built image of the state, through which the perception of national interest takes place.
• 3. The national interest is fundamentally different from the public interest. National interests are secured foreign policy, and public - internal. They should neither be opposed nor merge.

The foreign policy of an independent state, according to G. Morgenthau, should be based on some kind of physical, political and cultural "reality" capable of realizing the nature and essence of its own national interest. This "reality" is the nation. All the nations of the world in the international arena strive to satisfy their primary need, namely the need for physical survival. In a world divided into blocs, unions, where the struggle for power and resources does not stop, all nations strive to protect their physical, political and cultural identity (identity) in the face of invasion from outside.

Probably, this position of G. Morgenthau was relevant for the times " cold war when the world community was divided into two opposing camps: socialist and capitalist. AT modern world when countries are in effect various reasons are interdependent and interconnected with each other, their survival and development can only be ensured through their cooperation and interaction. Under these conditions, any state, pursuing its own national interest, must respect and take into account the interests of other states.

By combining its own interests and the needs of other states, a nation can ensure its own security. National security means the state of protection of the vital interests of the individual, society and the state from internal and external threats, the ability of the state to maintain its sovereignty and territorial integrity, to act as a subject of international law.

The concept of "security" for the individual, society and the state does not coincide in everything. Personal security means the realization of his inalienable rights and freedoms. For society, security consists in the preservation and multiplication of its material and spiritual values. The national security of the state presupposes internal stability, reliable defense capability, sovereignty, independence, and territorial integrity.

In our days when danger persists nuclear war, national security is an integral part general security. Until recently, global security was based on the principles of deterrence, confrontation and confrontation. nuclear powers(USSR, USA, France, Great Britain, China). But truly universal security cannot be ensured by infringing on the interests of any states; it can be achieved only on the principles of partnership and cooperation. turning point in the formation new system universal security was the recognition by the world community of the impossibility of winning and surviving in a world nuclear war.

Unable to secure national security without revealing, realizing, proclaiming vital national interests by the state. Otherwise, the foundations of national security can be destroyed without hindrance by anyone - as happened in the USSR at the time of perestroika, and then in independent Russia. Unidentified, unconscious and undeclared national interests are not protected in any way; are areas of vulnerability, Achilles' heels, and therefore - the main directions of the new war.

In a viable and efficient state, the priority of national interests is determined by their vital importance. The state protects national interests by all available means. It should also be taken into account that interests that are not vital and even alien to the nation can be proclaimed as national interests; priorities of national interests can be substituted; relevant problems may be inadequately formulated and addressed. In this case, the country will self-destruct with its own forces and means.